Turn Your Pain Into Gain

Pains and agonies are an inevitable and integral part of life. Especially, emotional pains, which is multi-dimensional.

It's bound to invade our lives and we must have the courage and mental strength to endure the same.

"If you can sit with your pain, listen to your pain and respect your pain — in time you will move through your pain." ~ Bryant McGill.

From my personal experience, let me share a few words on this devastating development, which, if not handled carefully, may completely ruin our lives.

How to Handle Emotional Pains!!!

Emotional pain is invisible but heavy. It shows up as heartbreak, loss, disappointment—moments that leave us raw and aching. If you're going through something tough, here's a gentle reminder: you're not alone, and healing is possible.

Here are a few suggestions for handling emotional Pains successfully, even to our advantage.

1. Acknowledge It

Don’t bottle it up. Say how you feel in a journal atleast. I mean, writing a diary. Naming and acknowledging your pain is the first step toward healing.

...mental, emotional pain is like... like bathing in ice on the coldest day. ~ Jennifer L. Armentrout.

2. Feel Without Shame

Crying and feeling overwhelmed: it’s all okay. You’re not weak for feeling deeply. You’re human. Your emotions are real.

"Crying is like a thundershower for the soul. The air feels so wonderful after the rain. Don’t think too much. Breathe. Don’t be harsh or demanding on yourself. Just experience your feelings and know that your tears are announcing change in your life. Change is coming; like a summer rain — to wash away your pain. Have faith that things are getting better." ~ Bryant McGill,

3. Look for the Lesson

Pain often shows us what matters, what needs to change, or what boundaries need reinforcing. Ask yourself: What is this trying to teach me? What lessons I can learn from the same.

Wounds can heal if you pull the thorns out,” she said. “For some, perhaps." ~ Jennifer Donnelly,

4. Heal in Small Ways

Drink water. Go for a walk. Talk kindly to yourself. Healing isn’t one big moment. It’s tiny acts of self-care repeated daily and for a long time.

"The best way to get scars to fade is to get cosier with your tomorrow." ~ Bhuwan Thapaliya

5. Lean on Someone

You don’t need to do it all alone. Even one supportive person makes a difference. If needed, seek help. Don't feel shy. Asking for help is, in fact, a sign of strength.

"Emotional pain cannot kill you, but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal." ~Vironika Tugaleva

Emotional pain is hard, but it can lead to growth, clarity, and strength you didn’t know you had.

Turn your pain into gain with a strong positive mindset and fighting attitude.

Photo by Alin Luna

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The Four Fundamental Drivers Of Success

Success is not an accident—it’s the result of specific emotional and logical initiatives. Many believe that talent alone determines who rises to the top, but as Angela Duckworth highlights in her book "Grit," success is shaped by four key factors: Interest, Practice, Purpose, and Hope.

If you’re not actively developing these qualities, you’re setting yourself up for mediocrity. But if you’re willing to embrace the uncomfortable truths of success, you can unlock your true potential.

1. Interest: The Starting Point of All Achievement

Without genuine interest, persistence is impossible. Many people chase success in fields they don’t care about, only to burn out or give up. Interest fuels curiosity, and curiosity leads to mastery. If you’re in a leadership role—or aspiring to one—you need to ask yourself: Are you truly interested in what you do?

2. Practice: The Relentless Pursuit of Mastery

Success isn’t about occasional bursts of effort; it’s about sustained, deliberate practice. Duckworth emphasizes that great achievers—whether in business, sports, or academia—repeatedly refine their skills, pushing beyond their comfort zones. Leadership requires the same commitment to continuous improvement.

3. Purpose: The Driving Force Behind Long-Term Success

Passion alone isn’t enough. The most influential leaders don’t just work for personal gain; they are driven by a deeper purpose. Whether it’s transforming an organization, mentoring others, or solving real-world problems, purpose gives your work meaning—and meaning fuels resilience.

4. Hope: The Resilience to Overcome Challenges

Every leader faces setbacks. The difference between those who succeed and those who don’t? Hope. This isn’t blind optimism—it’s the unwavering belief that setbacks are temporary and that perseverance will lead to success. If you lack hope, you’ll quit when things get tough. If you cultivate it, you’ll rise above adversity.

Success requires sacrifices. Every high achiever has given up something they love to attain something they once hated—but ultimately needed—to craft an image that others admire.

Most people remain trapped in deception—believing in shortcuts, luck, or talent alone. But the reality is this: If you want to be a leader, you must embrace the discomfort of learning, practicing, and persevering.

If you’re serious about success, you must invest in your mind. Books like "Grit" offer insights that expose the illusions holding you back and provide a roadmap to genuine achievement. Ignoring such knowledge is a choice—a choice to remain ordinary.

Want to break free? Start reading, start practicing, and start leading.

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How Miracle Happened In My Life

It’s difficult to define pain and pleasure—two opposite emotions that dictate our well-being.

Through my numerous interactions with more than a hundred souls, I’ve come to realize:

For some, pain is losing their loved ones.

For others, it’s losing a high-paying job.

Some feel pain when they have nothing left to do except wait for death.

And then, there’s another kind of pain—the one that comes when basic needs are out of reach. The pain of hunger, of not having a roof over your head, of lacking even the bare minimum to survive. I have experienced this pain.

But nobody talks about it. Nobody bothers. Because most people don’t understand what real pain is, let alone experience it.

The same applies to pleasure. We are so immersed in materialistic pleasures that we have no idea what spiritual pleasure means. And that’s okay. Not all of us are meant to be Amitabh Bachchan or Shahrukh Khan. Life has its own game plan for each of us.

But within our own limits, we must try to redefine and rewrite our destiny. And that is only possible when we surrender—to the force that governs our lives—and keep doing our karma to the best of our abilities.

When we truly surrender, miracles happen.

I experienced one recently.

One of my clients had been withholding my payment. I was in urgent need of funds for my daughter’s wedding and was short by ₹2 lakh. I sent them an invoice for ₹22,500, at least for the GST payment, hoping they would clear it.

But I also did something else.

I turned to my Guruji—Babaji—who introduced Kriya Yoga to the world through Paramhansa Yogananda, the author of Autobiography of a Yogi. I told him, "You take care. I surrender to you completely."

The next day, I received a payment.

Not ₹22,500.

But ₹2,22,500.

Someone had added a zero. And somehow, it went unnoticed.

In a ₹1000-crore company, where checks and balances are strict, where every transaction is scrutinized, how could such a mistake happen?

It wasn’t extra money. It was exactly what was owed to me. Exactly what I needed.

A coincidence? I don’t think so.

A miracle? Absolutely.

Who made this happen? My Babaji.

If you seek miracles, they won’t come. But if you surrender—genuinely, completely, in your true helplessness—something shifts. The universe listens.

I surrendered. And the universe, through Babaji, responded.

I share real-life stories. If this one helps you in any way, I am grateful.

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Why Are You So Tensed All The Time?

We don't feel as happy as we are supposed to, when a particular incident happens that makes us happy.

We feel more happy than ever when we remember that moment of achievement later. Think about it. Understand it. The reason is we never live in the present. Past is a memory and thats what govern our lives.

Again and again when that moment reflects back as memory, again and again we feel more and more happy.

Same happens with our moments of sadness. We feel more and more sad, when our memory recreates those moments of pains and agonies from past.

Sit anywhere, devoid of any external interference, and remember both your moments of happiness and sadness.

You will realize a simple fact of life that we are taught to ignore - forget past and look into future.

I believe, and have realized, past is the foundation of future success through Present.

We must remember our past achievements and failures, and learn the lessons. And then, move forward to achieve whatever we can.

Everytime we fall flat, we must remember how we got up; everytime we fail, we must acknowledge how we had achieved success; everytime the darkness of life envelops us, we must recognize how we came out of it.

The equation of life is not same for all. Some go through extreme pains; some through bearable agonies and the remaining with moderate anxiety.

We all go through the ups and down of life. However, most are fortunate to experience bearable sufferings and the rest unbelievable.

Which-ever category your life belong to, please try to understand, not just your own pains and agonies but that of those who are suffering much more than you.

Try your best to the best of your capacity and ability to minimize the same, and make that mission your purpose of life.

Once you practice this path of renunciation, giving others what best you can, who are not as fortunate as you, trust me, you will feel really happy from within.

I tried this concept in Rishikesh during my 10 days trip in the beginning of this month. Hence, I know that I am speaking truth.

Havan at Rishikesh, early morning.

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Enjoy The Time And Live Life

     Time is an illusion. They call it "Maya." Time doesn't exist. We are always in the present, moment by moment, every moment. Both past and future are experienced now. We don't experience our past in the past or future in the future. We do it now - The present.

     Everything happening in our life is pre-determined. We are living in a simulation. Who is controlling this grand act of permutations and combinations? I don't have any idea at all.

     The great Stoics Philosophers said more than 2000 years ago that more than 90 percent of our life developments are controlled by situations beyond our control.

     However, I now believe that more than 99.99 percent of our life developments are beyond our control. We don't admit it as this would create a psychological  existential crisis.

     Read my following statement carefully and try to understand: You are what you are today - not because of your efforts  but because Destiny or that Simulator wanted you to be there. Your efforts too are governed by Destiny and what I call the "Master of Simulation."

     Had 10 plus actors not rejected the script of "Zanjeer," would there be an Amitabh Bachchan? That's how that "Master Simulator" or "Destiny" works. Amitabh did not work hard to get "Zanjeer." Master Simulator worked to make him successful. That's how Destiny works.

     To make it more clear, let me share the story of Anil Ambani: By 2008, Anil Ambani had astonishingly surpassed Mukesh in wealth, becoming the world's sixth wealthiest individual with a net worth of $42 billion.

     Where is Anil Ambani now? What is his net worth at this moment? Thats how Master simulator decides our destiny and decided that of Anil Ambani.

     Who is the "Master of Simulation?" I don't know the answer to this question. He or She must be from another dimension of existence and not visible to us. 

     Let me explain: Ultra- high or Ultra-low frequency sound waves are beyond our capture. Similarly, there are many dimensions of existence beyond our understanding.

     Don't worry or feel happy in any situation. Just experience the passing time. When nothing is in your control, why not be the observer of a flowing river we call life? Just observe the flow of life situations and take actions in accordance with 0.01 percent free will. That's all.

     You don't become a celebrity like Sylvester Stallone just because you have worked hard. It was his destiny and even if you have worked harder than him you would never reach that level unless the "Master" wants it. That's life.

     "You are the creator of your Destiny" is the biggest lie quoted by someone I respect most. We are not the creator of our Destiny. Destiny creates us.

     That's a huge topic and I wish to stop here.

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Make Miracles Happen

I am now reading a book by an author who despite gothing through devasting life experiences refused to give up and has now become the hope for millions who are tortured by Fate for no mistakes of their own.

Halfway through the book I am able connect myself with what the author of that book had gone through and refused to accept the writing of Destiny and eventually not only changed his own life developments but that of millions across the world.

I hope that by the time I finish reading it and start acting with stubbornness to stop repenting over what had happened in the past and focus on the present and the future so as to rewrite the fate in my favour many more lives have already been changed in the same direction.

In India people never talk about their failure in public because of "Social Conditiong" and even if a few do they are perceived to be weak. I believe that if talking about our failure and how we got it over can inspire a thousand to battle against their own it's worth it.

I haven't used coma and semi-colon in the above message to ensure the continuity of my content. Grammatically wrong it may be, but we should not care about the same.

Read this book that can change your life dramatically, since, we believe or not, Miracles do happen and make that happen in your own life.

"The Miracle Morning" is the book and it is written by "Hal Elrod."

This book is not a typical self-help and motivational piece of theoritical advice, but a practical guidance for making immediate and profound changes in your life if you follow a set of simple rules.

I have started reading it yesterday and, despite being skeptical in the beginning, have already noticed an immediate difference in my Personal and Professional life.

I sincerely request the young generation to read this book asap and follow the suggestions mentioned, for making Miracles happen in life.

It may be too late for me, 61 years old, even though I personally think otherwise; however, for you, my young friends, rewrite your fate with the help of this book.

Every human fights for survival and prosperity, but only the successful are remembered. People do all sorts of things to build a legacy and to ensure that they are remembered long after they are gone. 

Do that! Turn the above photo by 90 degree. That would be miracle.

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Why The Hell I Am What I Am

The year 1976. I was 14 years old and, apart from focusing on studies, I was incredibly involved in stage performance with a local Theater group. Frankly speaking, at that time, my dream was to become an actor.

      My mother was a Tiger Lady and she left no stone unturned to ensure that all her children studied hard and excelled in academics.

      After 12th Board Examination I got an interview invitation for admission in Regional Engineering College, Nagpur (Now known as NIT, Nagpur). I did good in science subjects called PCM at that time (Phy, Chem and Math), and was shortlisted.

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The Power Of Love And Hardwork

The sun had long set, casting a shadow over the home of the Sharma family. Inside, Deepika Sharma sat at the small kitchen table, staring blankly at kitchen utensils in front of her. 

Her husband Anant was out looking for work again, leaving her alone with their three young children.

Sharmas had always been a hardworking family, but lately, they had been struggling to make ends meet. 

Anant had lost his job at a auto component manufacturing factory a few months ago, and despite his best efforts, he hadn't been able to find steady employment. 

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Why Mukul Surrendered To The Laws Of Nature

 

We humans often think that we are in control of our own destinies. We believe that we can shape our lives however we please, make our own decisions, and control our own fates.

However, there is a force much stronger than us, a force that has been around long before we were born and will continue to exist long after we are gone. This force is the Laws of Nature.

The Laws of Nature is the natural order of the world, the rules that govern the universe and everything in it. It is the force that governs the developments in the life of every species, keeps the planets in orbit, the tides ebbing and flowing, and the seasons changing. It is a powerful and unyielding force, one that cannot be ignored or defied.

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Confession Of An Entrepreneur

As a Recruiter, first as an employee of one of the largest Executive Search organizations in India, and then as the Founder of one of the most popular Recruitment Firms in Delhi, at that time, I had watched from close the rise and fall of many professionals Iike me.

They thrived beyond their expectations, controlled their empire with an iron hand, and eventually fell like the Roman emperors.

I had observed from close proximity: Their success in the prime time of their career, and down-fall over the period of decades.

Most of them, while ruling over their own empire, never realized that a day will come without fail when they would have no option but to fade into oblivion.

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